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It Refers to Christ and the Church

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R-20101018-0029.jpgGod teaches us that marriage is primarily about displaying the saving love of Jesus Christ our Lord. The apostle Paul tells us that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. How did Christ love His people? He gave himself up for her, that he might make her holy, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.” One’s marriage, a man and woman’s love for one another as husband and wife, is meant to display for the world Jesus’ redeeming love in laying down His life for His people. Jesus gave himself up to death so that he could win a people to himself forever, a people who would be holy and righteous before Him, a people to whom He would give the grace and power to enjoy God forever. Jesus came not to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for the world. Husbands, you are to display this same kind of sacrificial love toward your wives, seeking to lay down your life for her so that she might know Christ’s love even more profoundly. And my own experience is that this is where husbands will find real joy in marriage. When you try to find new and creative ways to lay down your life for her, you are thrown back into dependence on God, which is the best place to be.

And the apostle Paul tells wives that they are to submit to their husbands just as the church submits to Christ. Wives, your submission to your husband’s leadership is no mere human thing. God calls you to it so that you might display the loyalty and joy that God’s people know by trusting Christ and putting their lives under His good authority and command. It is an unpopular thing today, but it shows that the wife’s ultimate allegiance is not first to her husband, but to Christ and His promises to take care of her in all circumstances.

Indeed, this display of the fervent love between Christ and His people is what marriage is all about. Paul writes at the end of Ephesians 5 that “this mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the Church.” What one man and one woman enter into in marriage is a covenant relationship, that is, a relationship built on mutual promises of love and faithfulness, where there is now an actual union of two people. This union is not a fiction, but a spiritual and physical reality. And it is a beautiful and wonderful thing.



Written by Michael Duenes

January 25, 2015 at 1:56 pm

Posted in Duenes, Marriage

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