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As a Little Girl, I So Desperately Wanted a Daddy

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Heather Barwick, who was raised by two lesbian women, writes a poignant and thoughtful piece in The Federalist, entitled, “Dear Gay Community: Your Kids Are Hurting.” She touches on the pain caused by growing up without a father, and the difficulty of sharing her hurt, given the state of our gay marriage culture. She says,

Kids of divorced parents are allowed to say, “Hey, mom and dad, I love you, but the divorce crushed me and has been so hard. It shattered my trust and made me feel like it was my fault. It is so hard living in two different houses.” Kids of adoption are allowed to say, “Hey, adoptive parents, I love you. But this is really hard for me. I suffer because my relationship with my first parents was broken. I’m confused and I miss them even though I’ve never met them.” But children of same-sex parents haven’t been given the same voice. It’s not just me. There are so many of us. Many of us are too scared to speak up and tell you about our hurt and pain, because for whatever reason it feels like you’re not listening. That you don’t want to hear. If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater.

You read the whole piece here.



Written by Michael Duenes

March 20, 2015 at 9:34 pm

Posted in Duenes, Marriage

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